Author: AlfredTheDude

Is having a clean body

Is having a clean and organized environment

Is being anywhere by any specific time if you don’t want to

Is working on What you want with Who you want

I cleaned out my filing cabinet last night and found a piece of paper from when I was newly hired at my current job, over a year ago.

Written on the paper was:

• I remember what {CEO Redacted Name} said back in the Swyft days:
  “This time is not forever. 9-12 months. That’s the timeline.”
  I should be working every minute I’m on the clock towards the ultimate goal, because the timeline will not last forever.
• I’ve also realized my current spot on Earth. I am:
  – In Austin
  – Single w/ Bachelor pad and Grind station.
  – In Tech Sales. A certified hitter assassin.
  – I can hold a conversation
• This ^^ timeline is not forever at all. So I’ve come to the conclusion that I need to eliminate fear completely. Murder it, and be shooting shots left and right. Professionally, because that’s what I’m paid to do, but personally also, because
  What do I have to lose?
• Memento Mori – One day I’ll be dead. So for now, I’m gonna send shots and make magic happen like only I know how to do.
• I also should completely detach from the results, and take up meditation to learn how to manifest/grow. (LOL)
  
  
• Written 11/17/25: On that last note, I am writing this after having experienced 6 quarters and done well at my job. Here are the keys I drop in reflection.
• 1. Everything counts.
  • Life is constant. The thoughts you hold in your head bleed into physical reality. That which you hold in your mind’s eye, the thoughts you steward, are the thoughts that come to pass. Time is the only asset; spend it wisely.
• 2. Take full responsibility.
  • Until all outcomes for your life, even ones you don’t perceive as your own doing, are claimed as your own responsibility, then you have not understood yet.
  • Something magical happens with identity when we take full responsibility. A person gains immense power over their own behavior, over their direction in life. This is the same reason judging others takes away from ones own self. We cannot know another person’s journey as we have never walked a day in their shoes, and never will. Worry about your own responsiblities, and the clarity that comes with that cannot be bought or sold.
  • Your wins are YOUR wins. Your losses are YOURS, too.
    This level of ownership is one that “they” don’t want you to take because it’s the only one that makes clear what you are and what Life is truly about. Try it and Dig it.
• 3. You are not fully in control
  • Take full responsibility, and understand this:
  • There is a time to win, and a time to lose.
    A time to reap success, and a time to taste failure.
    Both are gifts and both are part of the game. You Live.
    The experience itself is what matters. The action itself, the reps individually, are what matters.
  • There is a force at play that gives what is deserved. The pain, the triumph, the love, the fear, the “Why?”… all of it. This is the conciousness by which all things are connected. You and I, the birds, the bees, the trees, the stockmarket, and that pesky prospect who just won’t say yes. There’s a reason. Understand that you will not know exactly why, but you must have faith, focus on Love inside of yourself, and trust the process.
• 4. Arena vs. the Stands
  • You are fighting in the Arena. Stretching yourself, conquering fear, sending shots each day that may come up futile in the short term. It is all part of a bigger plan.
  • Wolves don’t concern themselves with the opinions of sheep. If they saw the world the way you did, they wouldn’t open their mouth in criticism. But, everybody needs a hobby I suppose. Just a fact of life.
  • The pain is the price you pay to play. Learn to Love it.
    
    Cheers – alfredthedude
    

First: What is a Pineal Gland? Why does it matter?

I urge you just to try removing some of this list from your life and see what the effects are on your person. That’s it. Just a trial.

1. Gossip
   • It’s untrue, you believe it to be true. But this is not the danger. The danger is that gossip cuts you off from Self, it is a destruction of your creation energy, and creates more negative emotion for all parties involved.
   • The real dangerous ones are ones deemed seemingly innocent, because they are silent and yet incredibly deadly toward the root of a person’s identity.
2. Alcohol
   • The most prevalent dark spirit on Earth.
   • “Matrix Juice”, it reduces inhibitions and destroys perception. Keeps you dumb. Millions use it daily. It’s deemed “safe” and sold on every street corner in the world. It’s used to run from that which you must confront.
   • It’s addictive as fuck, not only physically, but in social circles. Quit drinking, then count your friends again.
   • More deadly than all other drugs combined.
   • Here is the worst part: It keeps you from knowing yourself. You’ll never look inside if you keep numbing and running at the slightest feeling of discomfort.
     THIS IS THE MOST IMPORTANT PART OF YOUR JOURNEY. The pain is the gift. The pain is the teacher. The pain shows you what is real and what is important. Without the pain, a person will be lost and purposeless, seeking out dopamine and pleasure for its own sake.
     A purposeless human might as well be in a living hell.
3. Passing Blame
   • You are a sovereign being. You have arms and legs, a voice, and a brain. If you don’t like something – change it.
     If you can’t change it, move your body elsewhere.
     If you can’t move, look at the situation differently.
     If you can’t see things differently, try a different way.
   • You are in charge of your outcomes. Life truly begins when a person takes full responsibility for their own.

Well, he has many sayings. Such as:

“Whether you think you can – or think you can’t – you’re right”

or

“Only boring people get bored.”

and many others that are wise and worth holding.

But there is one that has stuck with me as I’ve grown through adulthood. I come back to it often when I make a poor choice, when something bothers me, when I think:

“This situation/person/thing oughta be different”

Here is the quote:

“A parent’s job is to fuck you up. It’s your job to unfuck yourself.” – My Father, the original dude

The quote rings true when I think back to Stoicism. When I think back to the childhood trauma I endured and have worked to heal my person from, when I’m regulating emotions in a moment.

When I think back to the unique childhood trauma both my mother and father endured, and they had no idea how to cope with it except egoically.

Through judging others cause they had never looked inside.

Through identifying with fear, because they didn’t know there was another option.

Through whatever faults they bring to the world. I bring faults, and so does every human walking Earth. Nobody’s perfect.

It makes me think about this notion:

If you know there’s a better way: to live, to love, to enjoy this one experience we get, then it becomes your responsibility to live that better way out. No matter what any other person says, does, feels or thinks about you. It’s between you and God.

Knowledge is power, but it also creates obligation.

My point is: When my dad says a parent’s job is to fuck you up, what he’s saying if I translate it is —

“Life is metal. We gave you life. This shit is imperfect. Make it what you want it to be or what you see it as. No one can stop you.”

So I could’ve spent more time being angry that my dad can be a nasty critic. Or that my mom couldn’t keep a clean home.

OR

I can realize they’re just humans, with flaws, surviving and even thriving at times, doing their best. Anger or resentment about this is only a discredit to myself and my future.

This quote is so powerful because it resonates with all relationships in life.

You don’t like what someone said? How someone behaves? Honestly, that’s your problem. Those are your feelings.

That other person is not responsible for the feelings happening inside of YOU! You are responsible for your own feelings, response, and emotional regulation.

I call back what Marcus Aurelius says (paraphrasing):
“Each day, you will encounter the cruel, the wicked, the vile. Just know, they have nothing to do with you. Do what is Right, as your life is not between you and the vile, wicked or cruel. Your life is between you and your creator. Nobody else. Do what you see fit.

and later in my journey, I realized, Jesus said it too, while he was being crucified:

“Forgive them Father, they know not what they do.”

and that my friends, is a deep truth.

I challenge you, when you’re in the wild and become bothered, when a family member behaves unruly, when your girl cheats on you or when you feel injustice. I challenge you to ask yourself “What is the Right way to handle this?” Then do what you see as Right, regardless of the consequence.

This is where you will witness magic unfold. Cheers.

-alfredthedude

p.s. If someone can ruin your time, make you feel some type of way, then that person has power over you. They control you.

Why would you want to be controlled like that?
Asking for a friend.

Here are isms that I’ve seen hold constant

• Remember, there are the good ol’ days. This present moment Right Now, the future looks the brightest, and the past most understood. Your Present Moment is the best you’ll do.

to add to that notion…

• It’s now or never – Always. That’s the killer instinct.
  “Later” is a figment of a person’s imagination.
  “next time”, “tomorrow”, these do not exist.
  It’s not delusional to think this.
  Thinking you’ll have time later IS the delusion.
  Come to Jesus now, or forever hold your peace.
  
  * Come to Jesus meaning: Do what is on your heart or mind now. There will not be a second chance to do the same.
  
• Moving with a “Sense of Urgency” is often the difference between Life or Death, Success or Unsuccess, Missing the Boat or getting on it just in time.
  
  A sense of urgency cannot be taught, but only discovered and felt from within. It’s a “You” thing that only you can give to yourself. It can only be understood and applied from within.
  
• You pay attention to what everyone else is doing and not what’s going on within your own self… Congratulations.
  
  You’re gonna end up broke and retarded like them, confused as anyone, and guess what? It’s your own fault. Don’t blame anyone else. You were in charge of your time, the whole time.
  
• The answers you seek lie within.
  In fact – it would be an impossibility for Your answers to lie within another person.
  
  The universe often uses people as mirrors so we can discover ourselves more fully. But a person can only ever observe the world as deeply as they have seen themselves.
  
  Some call this a relationship with God. All Things.
  
• Italian Proverb: Do not sleep under the same roof 2 nights in a row.
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